HRD Corp, Corruption and HRDC Training Providers.

Here’s me at the MACC talk on December 7th, The Light Hotel, Seberang Jaya, with the fella that says he’s the one responsible for investigating complaints about corruption.

The Key Takeaways (for me) are :

1. Once an act that is considered “corruption” has been committed there’s no way to plead ignorance, to back-track or to “repair” the situation. No second chances and “ignorance of the law is not a defence.”
2. People who are inclined to commit an act that is out of integrity and out of “professional ethics” will find all kinds of creative “leeway” to justify the original intent. It is our human nature.
3. There’s no such thing as an “innocent” error especially when submitting claims. An “additional 0” or being imprecise about a wording or filling in ghost-attendees just to qualify for a requirement – they’re jailable offences.

So, let’s see what I can recall about the talk….

Let’s go through each of the circles.

1 & 2 goes together : because it takes two to tango.

What’s “soliciting” ? – I was surprised that complimenting someone on something that they have is considered “soliciting”. I know that is true of Arabic culture and some other cultures where you cannot actually SINCERELY compliment someone for their blessed life i.e. beautiful jewellery, handbag, furniture, home renos. I once heard from a Malaysian Malay person that you can’t even compliment someone’s cat or they would be obliged to give it to you!

This was a big shocker for me because I have a very natural tendency to unabashedly compliment people for things that I believe required either personal attention, sustained effort, good fortune or collective social capital or a combination in order to achieve. For example, now that I am “midlife”, I do not take hair and teeth health, good skin, posture and “energy to get things done” for granted. Those are things I have made sacrifices to have or to regain. They cost things like sustained effort, opportunity costs, the goodwill of those I keep company with. Even being able to show up in a clean and pressed outfit , to be able to wake up and show up on or before time for an event – those are things that I genuinely feel deserve to be highlighted. And those are only the non-tangibles.

I genuinely love people who make effort in haircuts, fashion, fabric / textile or men who go for “haifu”, eyebrow embroidery or a tailor-made / bespoke suit. It costs both time and money to save up for a suit and to go for the multiple fittings. It’s an eye that my late father and grandfather bestowed in me – about men’s grooming (hair, facial hair, body shape), suits, shirts, ties and shoes. And a WATCH. For females, I admire those who have spent the last few decades taking supplements or having a procedure for dark circles / eyebags, wrinkles, etc. The things I admire and love about people are clearly more than skin-deep. It’s just that when it comes to first impressions, those things are immediately obvious. As much as I can, I find things to appreciate in others because familiarity breeds contempt, it is easier to find fault and criticise, and we want to be able to see the best in people any chance we get.

I celebrate others having nice cars and watches and bags because it requires taste, appreciation of a craft and the competence to earn and be willing to spend on that craft. The list can go on! The world is a display of people’s imagination, sustained effort, talent and unique perspective and experiences. This “sweet mouth” is something I have always remembered having – I delight in the success, achievements and possessions of others. By appreciating others owning it, I don’t need to own it myself because the delight is there. “Bless that which you want.” I believe that people deserve to be seen for the best that they are. But I can understand how “complimenting” can be seen as “flattery with an agenda” because I have been dealt many so-called compliments that are actually throwing shade at me. It is a very sad state we’ve come to – that we cannot just take things at face-value and we have to keep thinking about “hidden agendas”.

I would like to protest but I think they’ve thought through the perils of “personal soft power”.

I would like to DOTH PROTEST that complimenting someone for what they have is considered SOLICITING. If you want something – be DIRECT and ask for it. Forget about being “indirect” or genuine and sincere compliments for a moment. Let’s just focus on THE ASK. In any sales training or sales closing, you are going to have to do The Ask. Even in dating, you have to do The Ask. As Harv Eker says, “If you don’t ask for it, the answer will always be NO.” The Ask is one of the 7 Aspects of Power that I had to help my older son learn. 7 Aspects of Personal Power is a story for another time but the inability to ASK for your need to be met leads to a darkness in humanity.

But MACC is MACC. A person can report me for SOLICITING if I compliment them for something. They can even ENTRAP ME by offering me the thing I complimented them upon so that they can REPORT ME TO MACC. I strongly disagree with the criminalisation of solicitation because the simple solution to “solicitation” is just to clearly and emphatically say “No”. To incentivise Malaysians to entrap others who solicit creates an Authoritarian 1984 Orwellian dystopia.

As a lady, how many times throughout my decades of eating salt do you think I have been faced with “solicitation” and “harassment” ? I understand the slippery slope because the person who SOLICITS or OFFERS might not give you the option to say NO. They may even penalise or deny you what you have a fair opportunity to access or have qualified yourself to receive i.e. significantly increase your direct or opportunity costs. And this is where POWER, be it personal or legal-rational, comes into the picture. When an OFFER becomes a blackmail, threat / HARASSMENT, then that should be criminalised. An answer, ideally, should be either a flat out “no” or it’s a “let’s negotiate the terms”. But we already know that there’s a segment of the population, known for their “Narcissistic Abusive” traits, who are like 2-year old toddlers that simply will not take “no” as a boundary. People with “dark triad traits” take “no” as a narcissistic injury, no matter how rationale your reason is or how gentle your approach is. It’s never about you and what is safe for you, it’s about them and how they want to “win”.

MACC and “powers that be” have clearly thought out the trajectory of the “soft problems of relational and personal power” – that power is seldom balanced between individuals, what more when those individuals represent offices and positions versus those handicapped by socio-cultural backgrounds, gender, etc.

For most Trainers and Training Providers, unless there’s a vindictive agenda, I doubt we want to get involved in the business of policing the corporate sector on behalf of MACC. It is true that we may be at risk of being OFFERED a “cut” from the “claw-back” by employers or their agents (i.e. their HR or gatekeeper) or “profit-sharing” (laughable that they use the word profit-sharing in the context of the claw-back, it’s an abomination of the capitalist definition of “profit”).

The New Risk To Training Providers and Trainers :

But here’s the new risk : If they are unhappy that we rejected them with a NO, they will REPORT US FIRST that they offered us, to cover themselves, just in case we report them first. What a bloody pain, isn’ it?

As for submitting false claims :

As a newly registered Training Provider I have not submitted claims under my own TP or for any other trainer but I have had another TP submit claims in order that I get paid. From my understanding, we invoice the client, the client agrees on the price, and then we invoice HRDC. And the employer does a similar procedure to have funds released. I honestly do not see room for submitting false claims when it comes to SBL-Khas or Employer Specified Training unless there’s a typo with one less or one extra “0” or typos in names of participants / IC number. This is where we need a second pair of eyes to practice diligence.

There’s probably more room for this under the PENJANA projects where Training Providers were openly advertising for people to sit-and-eat through a training or just provide their name and I/C number in exchange for saying they’ve attended a training. I was honestly tempted to join many of those trainings – free food and free learning!!!

Let’s be Wide-Eyed : It’s no longer “business as usual”. – Here are the cultural norms of doing business in Malaysia that’s considered a jailable offence. Let’s consider ourselve informed!

1. Sending hampers, giving angpows, mooncakes, kuih raya, set tudung, giving novelty gifts to people you do business with. – NOT ALLOWED.
2. Sending “premiums” like calendars, diaries, etc to people who buy from you. – NOT ALLOWED.
3. Buying meals for, paying for entertainment, vacations for the person of their family.- NOT ALLOWED.
4. Offering people, their associates or their families, cash or kind (vouchers, things redeemed from points, introductions to facilitate entry for a kin) as part of them having assisted you in a deal or proxy to a deal.
5. Giving clients products with your company’s name or logo on it (free product placement or unpaid advertising taking up real-estate and eyeballs)
6. If an employee, trainer or an agent acting as a representative enabling the transaction between HRDC training provider and the employer offers / receives a bribe in the course of engaging a training – the TP will be held liable.

In other words, if you are a Training Provider, you need to have a very high degree of being able to trust the people, trainers and other Training Providers you cross-sell with. In general, I don’t see much of a problem with #7 because as the Training Provider, we do need others to help us cross-sell and up-sell. What are the risks? Would a trainer offer “kickbacks” to the gatekeeper or agent acting on behalf of the Employer? The trainer is actually the best person to up-sell more of his / her own courses or to cross-sell other courses that a Training Provider carries. In general, a HRDC trainer is sufficiently well-paid enough for a day’s training. If being paid as a trainer, speaking for myself, is not enough, then perhaps there are other parallel or more lucrative opportunities outside of being a HRDC trainer that can also be pursued that does not have to incur professional risk to oneself.

The Training Provider can also include a T&C in the Training Agreement, that by accepting the terms of the training, the Employer declares that they have not been personally offered nor offered any incentive to the trainer. And in issuing the offer letter to the Trainer to deliver the training, the Training Provider can also include that statement to be signed off on. “Sales” is really about Speed and Trust and being fulfilled in knowing that closing a sale means being able to help more people.

Points 1 – 6 above considered, doing ANYTHING to buy goodwill and a relationship with someone who will return the favour in some other way – it’s BRIBERY and corruption.

This Will Get Me Haters but I err on the side of where I stand on this.

For too long, the Malaysian economy has suffered because power distance and “gift giving cultural norms” that are based on “soft power hierarchies” have thwarted the applications of higher-value sales and marketing endeavours. Malaysians sugarcoat bribery as “marketing” and “public relations”. Putting one’s company name on a pen, for example, and giving it to a client – that’s not “marketing”. It’s technically “product placement” (advertising) and the reason it is not ethical is simply because “advertising space for rent” or “eyeballs and traffic for purchase” is not a monetizing product offered by the Target Audience where the “pen or calendar” is placed at.

One of my key takeaways from attending LimKokWing as a Business Comms student (Advertising, Marketing and PR) is that the basic idiot enrolled in that course has to know the difference between Advertising and all the things that fall under it, and Marketing – the specific problems that they solve and the specific capabilities required. I never paid much attention to PR because it looks like the Disaster Clean Up Crew – i.e. get paid to lie without getting it being used against you in court. Later in my young adult life, I had the good fortune of being groomed to enjoy “sales” as an ethical, moral and fulfilling job.

Because of the limitations that have already been imposed on me by my formal education and formal mentoring in sales I find it very unsettling the way Malaysians throw around the words “advertising, promotions, sales, marketing, branding”. Is it a matter of unconscious incompetence or conscious incompetence?

Which brings me to my final thought on this….

Formal education and formal training does matter when it comes to creating limitations and refining definitions. For a great majority of participants in the monopolistic competition (a) labour and (b) laissez-faire market, the barrier of entry is low. Therefore, sans legal-rational regulations and regulatory enforcements, we can only count on individuals opting in and choosing their behaviours based on their current (Kohlberg’s) stages of morality. The social capital cost or gains of individuals opting-in at a lower or higher level stages of morality is cumulative. Even if there are no frameworks and structures to continuously and comprehensively collect and tabulate data on the behaviours of individual and “culture” as players and actors in a free-market, the cost to socio-economic development and quality of life is real.

Training Providers whose Business Model is to formalize “informal” adult pathways to knowledge acquisition really have no room to conduct ourselves as people who “cannot possibly know any better” when it comes to our playing field. Using the SAQA framework and level descriptors of learning achievements as the context, at Level 10, this is what it says : “Accountability, in respect of which a learner is able to demonstrate an ability to operate independently and take full responsibility for his or her work, and where appropriate to lead, oversee and be held ultimately accountable for the overall governance of processes and systems.”

As the commercial and administrative arm assisting trainers to meet the training needs of the Malaysian workforce, we as HRDC registered Training Providers have zero wriggle room when it comes to Accountability. At least, that was my takeaway from the talk.

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US is the new Hitler and we need a Global New Counter Culture to be the juggernaut.

The Global New Culture War against the US and Western Europe will be a war for FREEDOM FROM TYRANNY and a necessary war. This New Culture Global War that has no enemy but has a target will also help many inside the US who are being stifled and abused by the Neomarxist neoLiberal progressives that is sometimes referred to as “Deep State”.

This Global New Culture War we must come together around is not an attack on Capitalism or other American values. It is a RESPONSE to the incapacity of the US DEMOCRATIC PROGRESSIVE IDEOLOGY to extricate itself from its reality that has produced a SERIAL KILLER, ABUSER and TYRANT in the form of Democratic Hegemony. This is a simple case of the victim that grew up to become the Abuser. We must wrestle the Overlord position of the US away from them for the well being of the microcosm. It is no different from stepping up to the Patriarch or Matriarch in your own family and informing them that they are no longer allowed to make or enforce toxic behaviors and patterns in the family.

Will it be messy – of course. Production of Sustaining Power Grab must shut down. The reason people FAIL AS LEADERS is because of the Peter Principle. A faction, the Deep State, has already maxed out their COMPETENCE. People will not easily hand over power they’ve stolen or appropriated for themselves, they will be very defensive and highly defended because they cannot adjust to RISK. They are so obsessed with “taking care of the world /family ” and protecting from RISKS AND DANGER that they feel handing over power is RISKY. They will think like this : “It took us so long and so much effort to even get this little, how can you (New Power) possibly solve all the problems we have not been able to solve? How can we trust you (new movement) that you can solve the problems we couldn’t?

That kind of response is normal when you tell the Defacto Power, “Hand it over, Bob”. It’s simply power over the entire human race, it’s not a big deal.

The US under the neoLiberal democratic hegemony is incapable of seeing that they are embodying the Stalin/Hitler that they claim to fight against. The irony of humans is that we cannot protest too much else we embody the vibration and manifestation of the VERY THINGS WE ARE AGAINST. We must assist Serial murderer Abuser gone mad and relieve the US of their WHITE MAN BURDEN. Putin is a very easy person to deal with and Trump, man child that he is, is right about how he judged putin. Putin is a person easy to talk to because he is someone who is very rigid and disciplined and obeys rules. If you study putin’s personality, you will see very consistent and stable patterns of who he is like. Putin doesn’t come across as exhibiting any of the dark traits of Xi. But that’s a different story altogether. Let’s hope Putin is in good health because Alzheimers turns everyone into an unrecognisable monster or reverts them back to adolescent angst. (Old people disease).

US democratic progressive is a product of hundreds, even thousands of years of RESISTANCE AND FIGHTING AGAINST psychopathy. They have manifested the very vibration they resist simply because that’s how Law works. You cannot fight MATTER WITH MATTER in order to create transformation. You cannot fight the enemy that you can see or that triggers action from our construct. From a place of compassion we can demand that the Aggressor cease confrontation and inform them of our incoming counter actions to demand what’s right for us and hold them accountable for their intimidation, manipulation and the losses they’ve created. We can then invite them to adjudication and let them know what we are willing to help them Shoulder and help them prosper. If they’re full of ego then of course we must muster more resources to offer them safety and security or other deeper needs they have beyond the obligation to stay in power.

Simple is not easy.

This Global New Culture War has no ENEMY but has a target – the Abuser cannot end on their own, the cycle of violence they perpetuate on others.

I don’t see Putin as the problem. Neoliberal Ideology is as toxic and damaging as Marxist Ideology. US is the new Hitler.

What Malaysians must know about the white collar labour market to get ahead.

The world is “churning” and that might be a positive thing in terms of intercultural exchanges in leadership, personal values and work ethics.

This article is written at the following level :

It says over here in this article that of those who want to leave their organisation (and Malaysia) , the top reason (36% of them) said it is because of a lack of career development. And this is followed by 27% of them who  said it was a lack of appreciation or recognition. And the third, at 26% is a very, very close second : a lack of training opportunities.

WHEN MALAYSIAN EMPLOYERS LACK THE SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL EQUITY THAT GOES ALONG WITH TAYLORISM.

So let’s take a look from an employer’s point of view. When Employers  hire somebody for a position it’s because they want to have somebody take away part of the task of running a busines off their hands. One person can’t possibly be the most efficient person to do everything that’s required to run a business. Over 60 to 70% of our business is actually record keeping. A business has to keep records of interactions that they  have with the seller, or the supplier or even customers and  buyers. A record of all interactions,  transactions and agreements in inter and intra-organizational communication has to be kept.

I’ve Lost My Self confidence…

“I’ve lost my self confidence”……. He says. He failed in a business and a relationship and he felt deflated.

“I’ve lost my self confidence”….. She says. Someone said something or treated her a certain way and made her feel like she’s nothing of value.

Do you have a program in your mind that tells you that if you didn’t work hard, you would amount to nothing? Or that you must always behave exactly how your parents, family  or teachers expect in order to “fit in”, approved of and accepted? When unconscious adults diminish a child’s inherent worth, the child may never get a chance to develop sufficient self esteem that may mature later on into self confidence.

Technically, we can’t lose something that is acquired and part of us. Self-confidence is a part of some personalities and acquired through certain childhood experiences. We can only lose something we worked hard for / value. Usually what people lose is their sense of self worth or they develop low self esteem as a result of the way they were treated as children. Confidence is different. It isn’t something you gain or lose but it does become more solid the more self worth you have.

It might seem like “that’s just reality” – that every child has to learn to behave in order to feel accepted and validated. Many children get their light beaten and diminished out of them in exchange for love and belonging. But other children, usually the ones called, “naughty /problematic” are children who don’t seek validation and approval. They won’t accept mistreatment and the unconsciousness of adults who try to control them. They will suffer many other things but they maintain their Core Competence and CORE CONFIDENCE.

“Confidence” looks like “things become easy”. It’s as if the universe bends backwards to accommodate the desire of those who are confident. Confident people attract what they need, and they handle disasters with a “Can-Do” attitude. They accept defeat as par for the course, they calculate and calibrate risks /opportunity with clarity and just make a decision that is the least loss, most gain, in a given chosen time frame. Losing simply means they rehabilitate, not stay down. And then they go at life again as if nothing happened. Would that auto regenerative resilience be the kind of value you would want for yourself?

The Myth Of Confidence.

If you worked hard at fitting in, avoiding shame and conflict, developing a skill or talent, building a business, having a family, etc OF COURSE you become at risk of losing self confidence. I will have to write separate posts on the difference between self worth, self value, self esteem and self confidence. They are more often than not interconnected but this post distinguishes the nature of Confidence and what it really is.

You can also fake it. It works UNTIL you meet someone who has CORE CONFIDENCE and then you crumble like a sandcastle or become led to your own doom. I honestly do not  believe that “confidence” comes from being good at something or “overcoming fear”. Confidence is what helps you focus on what you are good at or have potential in. Confident people actually end up being competent at a lot of things. Confident people have fears too but they thrive on it OR they are very decisive to not bother with vain attempts of proving themselves.

This “fear” that many clients approach me with is almost always a trauma symptom. “Confidence” is generally agreed upon as something that looks like this :

Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weakness well, and have a positive view of yourself. You set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively, and can handle criticism.

https://www.usf.edu/student-affairs/counseling-center/top-concerns/what-is-self-confidence.aspx#:~:text=Self%2Dconfidence%20is%20an%20attitude,a%20positive%20view%20of%20yourself.&text=People%20with%20low%20self%2Dconfidence%20often%20have%20errors%20in%20their%20thinking.

Keywords : “accept and trust yourself” + you can control your life + often right on the money. You don’t “wobble” when criticised. Triggered, maybe, but no wobbling.

From Wikipedia :

Confidence is a state of being clear-headed either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Confidence comes from a Latin word ‘fidere’ which means “to trust”; therefore, having self-confidence is having trust in one’s self. 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confidence

When you are confident your predictive abilities and accuracy becomes very high relative to the population at large. It isn’t that you are smarter but people with less confidence have errors that beget errors and their erroneous thinking generates compounding losses. So they feel “lost”. From that holding position they take on more erroneous information – but that’s ok. Because they could not have known any better. How can you blame anyone who is already stuck in a loop of self perpetuating errors?

Cliche – But It’s An Inside Job.

Pivot and “work hard” at not giving a shit and develop an ability to being shameless. Because people who are born with boldness or acquire it through early life choices – they never gave enough fucks. Some people call that, “arrogance” and not confidence but a kid has only that many options when living in a state of fear and stress and unable to process the bigger picture. Inside you is an Inner Child that cannot even grieve for the confidence they have lost in themselves. “Clear headed ability to trust yourself” is a very precious Gift! Your Inner Child was robbed of that and denied a life of feeling confident. Step 1 is to compassionately love and allow yourself, your inner child, so that it will not be judged and allowed to show up as arrogant. As an adult, people will push back at you for being “arrogant” the same way they did when you were a kid. You have enough people judging you, don’t judge yourself because no one else is going to do your healing for you. Don’t expect anyone to understand the hell you must now walk through to reclaim the Gifts that have been buried. “Arrogance” is not your permanent position. It can be distasteful when you have no other options but to deploy an arrogant position coming from your wounds. “Arrogance” is just a temporary phase to allow that Inner Child energy to move and “have its day in court”.

This is in contrast to those who gain their confidence by ticking the right boxes and achieving. Core Confidence people feel that their confidence is mutually exclusive from their achievements. Paradoxically, this mutual exclusion makes achievements relatively easier for them.

“Developing Self Confidence” is not about learning to change mindset or behaviour. It is about REWIRING YOUR CORE and MIRRORING THE CORE FREQUENCY of people born into boldness and confidence. The techniques you learn from gurus and psychologists to be “confident in yourself” are temporary panaceas. It works UNTIL your next big goal then you crash and burn all over again.

The genesis of Clarity Awareness Coaching is truly about helping people become aware that the problems they think they have are not the actual problems they have and that’s why they cannot get answers from youtube, books and gurus. It isn’t that gurus and experts are wrong but the Question or Context used to find answers was erroneous. Confident people know the right questions to ask and they pick the most suitable information that supports their need to know from every resource out there. Confident people know what to pick and what to ignore. Confident people trust their decisions once they find the answer that satisfies their need /question.

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At your deepest Core, you have perfect Awareness and Clarity of What Is. Inside you is a diamond, a Buddha, a “Nur”, a light. When you re-tether to that Core again, you can actually feel that trust within you. It takes some excavation to get to that Core but yes, the diamond is within.

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Why Misery Loves Company

There are days I start to accept that the reason why some people would rather have problems and drama in their life is because that’s the only way they feel deserving of getting care and attention.

They want to keep their disease and pain and health problems.
They want to keep their toxic spouse or partner /relationships.
They want to keep their unsatisfying and problematic job.
They want to keep their unsatisfying and unprofitable business.
They want to keep the problem of children who stress them out.
They want to keep the problem of schooling, education, future of their children.
They want to keep their low social status and lack of self esteem.

I understand the reason people want to keep their problems because there is real grief and sorrow involved in moving towards the life you truly want. However, the price to pay for “glossing things over” and hoping that the problem will go away by itself – that price is something nobody can afford. I definitely  cannot afford the price of pretending certain problems are not “as serious”, in spite of that, I keep the problem with escalating costs anyway.

Why? Because there is true grief and sorrow involved in growth. And we need to work through these layers of grief until we get to the root of why we are holding on to our problems.

All of us have struggles but we have struggles we talk about because we want a solution for them and to transcend them. But there are times misery just wants company. People don’t want solutions to their problems of their stress. They just want someone to share in their pain.

This also explains the “lottery phenomenon” aptly portrayed in Squid Game. People want financial relief but after winning the lottery, the hedonistic value runs out and for a time, they no longer have the same problems they used to complain about all the time. The Squid Game Protagonist didn’t lose interest in money because he lost his mom and the traumatic events of the game. He has a choice to do with money what he can and work on his grief but he chose AGAIN to focus on problems that money bring. He wants to keep his problems of LOSS OF RELATIONSHIP WITH LOVED ONES. He even skipped his flight to LA and blew his one chance to do right by his daughter! Imagine her disappointment!

Understand that 90% of people want to keep the problems they have. But you decide whether you will allow yourself to donate your energy and time to accommodate other people’s problems.

Forgive them?

Separate your self worth from your nett worth. Your monetization nett worth can increase or decline based on your monetization efforts and the implicit costs and sacrifices you are willing to give up. Your intrinsic worth isn’t a stock price where value is determined by market forces.

The Chinese speaking community in Malaysia typically define themselves almost exclusively on the hedonistic principle as their highest benchmark. As a society develops and wealth is accrued, value creation becomes more complex. Certain types of value rank in hierarchies of dominance by opting out completely from the monetization model and becomes exclusionary. This means that you will be EXCLUDED FROM THE GROUP even though you have money.

The ready defence of groups that have been excluded even though they have money is to commit name-calling and shaming others. They will call you “banana”, for example. This is in contrast to more developed types of wealth/value that prioritise refinement, sophistication, education (not schooling), behaviour, morality, integrity, social cohesion and harmony, etc. It isn’t that you must give up non monetizable wealth and values as a trade off to make more money. They are mutually exclusive energies. You can have both. And it is ideal to want it all.

It is very embarrassing and cringe worthy to see what the victims of being excluded had to go through. It is truly humiliating to realize that money STILL EXCLUDES them from groups they want so desperately to belong to.

Make all the money that you want because it is fun! Not because you need people to approve of your inherent worth or value as a human being! You don’t need to ask people how they make their money because YOUR VALUE IS WITHIN YOU. What money chases after is VALUE and exclusivity. Know your value.

Don’t ask anyone how they make their money or how you can make more money. Simply discover the diamond and value that is within you. Money loves anyone who loves themself. There is more money in the world than you need but it’s just a matter of allowing it in. You are so worthy of more but the HOW TO MAKE MORE MONEY doesn’t lie in the HOW. It lies in you waking up to your own value.

Do you KNOW your own worth and value? Do you know you are diamond?

*This post is a commentary on the real estate agent and Chinese-speaking trainer from Penang who faced an incredible backlash from the Penang community over their uncouth remarks live streamed on Facebook as part of an effort to sell a piece of land in Balik Pulau.

Why You Should Refrain from Teaching Others “Better Ways of Making Money”.避免教导更好的赚钱方式

Yesterday, one of my clients told me about this incident that was hotly debated in the Chinese-speaking community. My client told me that the woman involved was an “education trainer” and my response was, “Well, that’s naive” –  I have made similar mistakes multiple times in my life and saved by the grace of not having it live-streamed.

I feel so sorry for the true victim of this incident : the woman who wanted to sell her land. But who knows what blessings she will receive from this. She delivered teaching in a situation she felt was an emergency. As private service knowledge experts, we are not bound by the same obligations as the off-duty police or medical doctor ; to offer aid to the civilian population. Personal growth is a self-serve economic model and not a socialist agenda. The mob came at her with pitch-forks. Reminder to self : Do not mix vibration with the mob. Don’t say anything to anyone until they are fully aligned to listen.

One of the things I teach my more senior students is, “Help others at your own peril“. You are free to disagree with my maxim but bear in mind that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing and taken out of context, things only have meaning based on the meaning we give it rather than the absolute and intrinsic value of the “meme” itsef.

The reason why your average multimillionaire and billionaire like Donald Trump or Bill Gates doesn’t focus on eradicating poverty or “uplifting lives” or educating people on entreneurship success isn’t because they are worried you will make all the money they’re currently making. It’s because teaching is a dharma and has a heavy karmic burden/reward much like parenting. It is a thankless job, all things considered.

People who have figured out how to make more money in a way that is legal (I’m talking specifically about “make money”, not “get away with paying the least tax possible to keep wealth) not only want to avoid the Axe over the Head burden but believe that it is prudent to simply keep their success to themselves. Why would Kuan Yin want to be reincarnated? She wouldn’t. She got her “get out of jail” card and she’s keeping that to herself.  She will pray for you from a distance. She wants to help but she actually can’t.  Why did Gautama Buddha quit existence entirely? Sick of all this isht. What did we do to the last guy that God sent down? Nailed him to a cross in his underwear and left that visual there for thousands of years.

Martyrdom is the new Stupid.  Comedy is the new In. The Entrepreneur Education trainer, if she wanted to, could reinvent herself as this bitter, cynical, dystopian philosopher who roasts people of the B40 category. The T20 may find comedic relief there – in private clubs within a gated community compound, of course. Or on some “members only” cruise ship called Elysium, with a “limited seats per show”  model.

MARTYRDOM IS SO 2,000 YEARS AGO.

The desire to see others thrive together with us can be our downfall. You may want to make people “great again” by picking up the guru or president mantle out of some moral imperative. Our moral imperative does not equal other people’s automatic receptivity.  People must volunteer for their own well being. They volunteer by being willing to receive and raise their vibrational alignment to us. If you want to help people who did not volunteer  to be helped in that specific way or are not ready or willing to let go of their situation, (consciously or unconsciously) you will roll in their vibration instead. No one can raise the vibration of others who are not willing and not open to receiving. If that were the case, the god of some religion or other would descend from the skies and bring us all up to the Kingdom of Heaven!

In the beginning years of seeing success as a trainer / coach , we go through a stage where we project our success and life of possibilities on to others. I made this mistake with a very good friend I used to have and she always, always, 100% of the time, puts me down and laughs at me. But she taught me a valuable lesson : gold and diamonds can be in front of us but if we are not in vibrational alignment or resonance to it, we would not be able to pick it up. We will instead see it as bullshit and an insult. What others see as opportunity, when we are out of alignment, we see it as “an insult”.

The naive “entrepreneur education” trainer who “laughed” at the e-hailing rider had good intentions. The road to hell, as aptly illustrated in the incident, is paved with them. A person who is NOT LOOKING FOR GROWTH or OPPORTUNITIES will be offended at every single good intention you have for them. Why is this? Because when something is not in vibrational resonance, it creates conflicts. All kinds of vibrations exists : vibration of resentment, fear, anxiety, of things not wanted and of things wanted. The entrepreneur education trainer probably wanted people to have a better life. But a majority of people’s focus is on, “I didn’t do this job / this business out of choice.” If people’s focus were a Cindy Lauper 1980s hit song instead, and all co-creative focus and work is “I just want to have fun”, our global economy would reach astronomical heights. The Great Resignation going on now, therefore, is a good sign : people are saying, “Fuck this shit, I have better options.”

If people believe they’re in a job or business that’s not out of choice but out of “no choice”, you can trace that specifically back down to the trauma, anger and grief  they have around their parents and how their parents made money. As long as that remains in their shadow it continues to project and maintain their reality. It can be resolved in as little as a few weeks (WhatsApp 014-2638425 to dissolve the energetic pattern around that) but you would be surprised how sentimentally attached we all are to our limits and drama.

Do You REALLY have any other choice?

I remember when I was working as a cleaner at an Internet cafe. My employers asked if I wanted to clean their home on my day off. I asked them, “At what rate ? (per hour or part thereof). They said the same rate as they are paying me for cleaning the shop. Then I heard a co-worker say, “This aunty behaves as if she has a choice other than being a cleaner.” Then the computer technician, when giving me a lift one day to another shop that I needed to clean, asked me, “Aunty, why don’t you work in some admin job? It’s easier and you look like you know how to use a computer.” – Competence leaves clues.

I have a choice to be a cleaner. I have a choice to be unemployed. (Technically, I am called someone who has opted out of the labor market so I am not “unemployed”). I have a choice to go on “extended periods or periodic instances of monetization or demonetisation”. Regardless of our “background”, our possibilities and choices are there but limited to our holding patterns.

Everyone (tehnically) has a choice to have anything they want but people are just not willing to pay the price for it. The price often includes being wrong about almost everything we’ve been taught. That’s pricey! Everyone (technically) has a choice to be broke or to monetize opportunities that the government of Malaysia would be happy to tax off  at a 30% rate if they could. The government, as long as it isn’t Communism, cannot put a gun to your head or my head and tell us to be  a super-profit company so they can put a prosperity tax on us to “stimulate the economy and create jobs for people”.  The moment you become aware that the government will either need to kill everyone or give everyone Universal Basic Income just to honor our existence – is the moment you can say, “I work because I choose to, not because I have to.”

Businesses do that all the time. They would move offshore. They would cease an entire segment of their business. They would let their stocks crash. Imagine if the government bails your life with UBI because YOU ARE TOO BIG TO FAIL. That is the day when, as a cleaner or a courier, you awaken to the  moral virtue of serving out of a sense of love and duty. It isn’t that the government or the “economy” can’t afford to bail you out but you feel a lot of resistance towards the idea. Most people are not in the receptive mode for various reasons outside the scope of this essay.

Making Money is Simply an Act of Saying, “I Honour What You Wish to Exchange With Me.”                     

I have a choice to accept any station in life. Like a Rudyard Kipling If, both Victory and defeat are mere Impostors. What was the price I was willing to pay to have that kind of Metachoice?  You can have what you want, you just need to know your price. Atlas has a choice to shrug. Be like Atlas. (in an Ayn Raynd novel kind of way.)

Caveat Venditor.

What does it take to be in a position where one can create by choice? That’s a different discussion altogether. The discussion here is that until and unless someone gives you permission to teach them, not by their words, but by the choices and sacrifices they have to make to get you to teach them – unless that happens, all that enthusiasm to “teach and make the world a better place will backfire 100% of the time.

People are suffering more than just the circumstances of their life. They are suffering from a convoluted web they have unwittingly spun. From that place of discord of all the things they don’t want, they will view everything that is the OPPOSITE vibrational frequency (things that they want) – they will view it with resentment, disdain and distrust. Their vibration makes it feel like , “You are mocking me”. If they trust you or like you a little because you have great rapport with you, they may still feel like you will belittle them or look down on them “for who they truly are inside”. One of the biggest fears people have in common is that, “If you truly see me for all that I am trying to hide from the world, I will be ruined.” People truly want to be seen for who they really are but at the same time they will recoil if you actually can.

Clearly, the property agent and his client hit a nerve with those who watched the live stream. The truth is,  people ARE afraid to be seen for who they THINK THEY ARE. The trainer might see them as who they truly can be rather than who they think they are. – But if only every single human being actually saw themselves as who they can be and to see themselves through the eyes of love rather than judgment. The computer technician saw me as a “chai hu”. I asked him what’s a Vegetable Fish? I perceived it that he saw me through the eyes of love and compassion and  thought I hadn’t imagined myself being capable of having more out of life. But when I asked, “What’s a vegetable fish? Or you mean, fish breeder, like, planting fish?” it dawned on him then that no local business would hire me as a Chai Hu.

The computer technician guy, just like the Entrepreneurship Education trainer, meant well and want to see others enjoying an easier life. But if that conversation between me and him were live-streamed, people will be yelling, “How can you say that to a breastfeeding single mom who became a cleaner so she can pick her hours? Are you looking down on her as a cleaner?Are you saying she cannot be passionate about cleaning? It’s good exercise and she has full autonomy. And she doesn’t need to talk to anyone while doing her job. Do you think you are so much better just because you have a diploma and own a series of Internet cafes?”

In my eyes, the property agent and the education trainer were victims. Their burden to bear was their NAIVETE. A Level 4 or 5 Clarity Awareness Coaching course could help with repairing the damage to our energy field and restoring our felt sense of being deserving in showing up authentically. (WhatsApp 014-2638425 for a consult). A Level 6 extended program is recommended for shifting one’s paradigm and reality and expanding the field of possibilities.

It is rather common that people who take up Confidence in English, Clarity Awareness Coaching or Emotional Freedom for Wealth and prosperity with me – it is rather common that they will lament the money blueprint of their parents and the pushback they fear they will face should they want better from life. Their parents either made money the hard way or the unscrupulous way and so it feels like a betrayal to invest in themselves and seek knowledge outside of their tribe. They honestly feel as if they are betraying their tribe by wanting to develop into someone or have a business / life / relationship that is different from those around them. But shifting reality requires shifting paradigms. They want to improve themselves yet they fully realize that if their parents and friends knew about the results of their calibration in optimising hedonistic, instrumental and utilitarian values (making a decision to invest in personal growth coaching program or workshop) – they would not be supported.

In many ways, my clients are smart – they keep their success to themselves. I’m not saying they’re smart only because they pay me. “Discretion is better part of valour“. Clients don’t suggest to their family members or siblings or friends or random people they meet to enrol in Adult Confidence English or English Soft Skills or Clarity Awareness range of programs. Why? Because Success is a self-selection process. Back in the day when I ran an English language enrichment center for K-12 (before I shifted exclusively to adult education in 2010), my clients were similar. They rolled up in nice cars and paid their fees in full upfront and ahead of time yet 90% of them keep it to themselves. “No one will understand this is the proper way to learn. Most people just want shortcuts in life rather than do it the proper way. People usually want the gimmicks and to show off to others”.

Exactly. No one will understand. And this was the price, sadly, that the property agent and the education entrepreneur had to pay – hoping people would understand the importance of money or personal success blueprints. The people who are open and willing to understand will seek you and pay you out of sincerity and appreciation for your knowledge. And it is really none of our business, not anymore, to engage with those not willing and not open. “Do not explain anything to anyone who is not in the receptive mode”. People who volunteer for growth will ASK. Those who Ask, will Receive. The caveat is they did the asking in a receptive mode.

A Mob is a Mob.

I absolutely disagree with the real-estate negotiator for pandering to the crowd and saying he will work as an e-hailing driver or food delivery. But what he is doing is very brave and highly commendable of him. It is also very brave and commendable of that Education trainer to listen to and pander to the crowd. A mob is a mob.

Hopefully the real estate agent and his client will use this negative publicity to further their own promotion of themselves and gain some benefit from this exposure. No matter what, they are already in a better position in life than most people and will continue to thrive. An incident like this can severely affect a person’s ability to go for their next goal in life. It is what I call, “Goal Trauma”. People who met with an unexpected pushback when they were gearing up for a next-level action taking can freeze or self-sabotage in that pattern.

As for people who are working as e-hailing drivers and riders – even though right now it feels as if people work because they have no choice, an easy way to change their future is to focus on the freedom and the choice they do have in executing  that job. Every job is noble. This Aunty here used to clean toilets and mop floors. Rude teenagers walk where she mops, spits on the floor, have sex in bathroom and throw condoms on the floor. People walk around the orange cone or sign that says, “Wet Floor”. They trample all over where you just mopped. They don’t flush after they use the toilet and ignore the “No Smoking Sign”. ( I smoke too but not in a toilet that others have an equal right to use.). Apart from that, this Aunty here works for absolutely no money giving birth to and raising 3 kids as a single mom. This Aunty is both proud to be the recipient of Bantuan Prihatin as well as grateful for the option to choose a life where we will be able to contribute 30% in taxes for Cukai Makmur. (Do I want to pay that price for that futures option?)

Goal Trauma

Victory and Failure are both Impostors. They weigh the same but their hedonistic utility value is different. One of the solutions I offer under Clarity Awareness Coaching is about helping people understand and free up the energetic patterns that hold them back from taking the right actions at the right time. Sometimes people feel they know what they need  do to bounce back or pivot. But a Goal Trauma that has caused an energetic block will prevent us from wanting to shine or thrive again.

Our nett worth is not our self-worth. You have value more than the value of a piece of land or the value of a property or the value of one sale or the monetary compensation an employer offers you. You have inherent value. Way too many people have forgotten that. It is near impossible to get out of hell relying on our own blind spots and regurgitating the same vibrational frequency feedback loop. But the truth is : What other people think of you is really none of your business.

Deep down everyone wants better for everyone else. Deep down people are hurting. Deep down you have your own demons and your own growth and your own room to clean. Personal Growth, freedom, choice – they are voluntary in nature. Therefore, refrain is necessary when good intentions around the Triad of Shadow (Family, Money, Love /Sex) is involved. The road to hell is paved with them.

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What if we flipped Asian power hierarchies on its head?

Hierarchies of value and society : what if we placed the youngest at the top of the hierarchy? What if we honour and exaggerate the respect  for our children rather than offer exaggerated respect to our elders as has been traditionally taught to us? What is we “invite” our children to eat first rather than address the elders to “invite them” to eat first?

What if our loyalties are with the children rather than the parents or older people? What if we neglect older people’s emotional neediness rather than ignore young children’s needs?

Sure, it would be great if we can “do both” but as a thought experiment, what if we had to choose? And not because we’re avoiding or intentionally neglecting our elders. But to shift society’s thinking from, “Respecting elders” and shifting the power dynamic to children? We have a lot of beliefs put in place that try to prevent this power shift.

Imagine, that instead of catering to the unmet needs of elders who expect things such as respect and loyalty from us, what if we transferred that to giving it to children? Giving children priority as people who get respect rather than have to give respect. And we cater to the behaviour of children rather than children feeling the pressure to behave for us. What if old people have to meet their own emotional and other unmet needs on their own rather than to live through their adult or teenage children? What if parents always honoured their children instead of using the power to, “punish and ostracize” the young and rebellious?

How would society change if we honoured our children? How would a child grow up to be if they were raised with honor and respect, have their hurts gain our sensitivity, and they didn’t need to earn it as a consequence of personal sacrifices, struggle, effort, pain? What is instead of, “Do not hurt your parents’ feelings” we instead become sensitized to how we hurt our children’s feelings?

Delivery of Money should be based on RIGHTS, not Eligibility.

Delivery of Lifestyle Sustenance Income ought to be based on Rights – not Eligibility.

The similarity  between Welfare and Working  Income in our current paradigm is that you need PROOF of Eligibility. That means you need to prove you are POOR enough. How is that not perpetuating POVERTY if you need to be poor enough to work for an income or receive welfare? So, if a person is above that line of eligibility does it mean they  will either not qualify for free money or not qualified to be paid just because they’re  “rich”?

That’s stupid to not qualify for free money just because you’re not hardcore poor. . If that were true, Kendall and Kylie Jenner and Gigi Hadid wouldn’t be highly paid fashion models because their families are already rich. If that were true, celebs won’t be paid millions for the right to publish photos of their babies. Coz they won’t be “eligible” based on “poverty” and “need”.

It isn’t that rich and poor people have different talents, abilities. It’s that the same  PREJUDICES are questioned rather than accepted. It’s not that working for  money is “beneath rich people”. It’s that rich people  don’t need to be prove they are poor enough in order to be eligible receiving money.

Welfare and charity mindset creates poverty. It’s really time for us to DEMAND that we don’t need to be poor enough or have to work just to have a minimum, comfortable lifestyle work freedom. Why do you think so many people attend “passive income” training? Why separate Universal Basic Income from Passive Income RIGHTS? How much money can we save by abolishing all charity and welfare institutions and redistributing the wealth from tax and donations as INCOME people spend to multiply wealth?

Universal Basic Income is different from welfare. Welfare is a SUBSTITUTE  for working income and is degrading to a human being because you need to PROVE  eligibility or merit. UBI is similar to MASSIVE PASSIVE INCOME where you get to enjoy the freedom and lifestyle you want WITHOUT WORKING and without proving eligibility.

Let me tell you the difference between MONEY and ABUNDANCE/PROSPERITY. “Abundance” and “Prosperity” are the (A) raw materials, natural resources, ideas and collaborations, knowledge and wherewithal (A) that a human being plays with to build and produce solutions, comfort that further multiplies (A) and it is regenerative.

It is understandable how and why we needed a MONETARY system the way we need a JUDICIAL SYSTEM to arbitrate the problems that come from the unequal distribution of ethics, morality, consciousness, knowledge, wherewithal.

The premise for my advocacy of UNIVERSAL BASIC INCOME is based on the fact we already have a MINIMUM and SUSTAINABLE  universal distribution of awareness on ethics, morality, consciousness, knowledge, wherewithal. The distribution  may not be EQUAL across the board but there is a minimal awareness that it is UNFAIR to permanently deny another person their b human rights. In many pockets we have SURPLUSes of such a distribution of “soft skills”. It is these soft skills that enable the technological and civilisational advances.

Now, back to “eligibility”.

Both welfare and employment /working incomep perpetuates a Myth that you have to “do something useful for society” in order to be able to eat and have basic shelter. I find it very barbaric, this idea that you need to prove your eligibility and worth by DOING. I understand why that was true in the past because of very unequal distribution of technology. I’m not the only one who finds it barbaric. A good number of people only live on investmen or passive or business income. They don’t live on working income alone unless they enjoy it and it is their right to profit what what they enjoy.

Working income is a human right. Which means you have a right to profit  should you contribute in some way. But working income becomes barbaric when it is an imperative for sustenance living rather than a right to profit. Since not everyone has the same opportunity to have PASSIVE  investment or business income or active business income, we must then replace WORKING INCOME RELIANCE with universal basic income.

Universal Basic Income is different from welfare. Welfare is a substitute for working income and is degrading to a human being because you need to prove eligibility or merit. UBI is similar to MASSIVE PASSIVE INCOME where you get to enjoy the freedom and lifestyle you want WITHOUT WORKING.

It will mentally kill  some people to think that every human has a right to MASSIVE PASSIVE INCOME and to work because they choose to. They have a right to be paid a working income apart from a passive income because they had to get up, take some mode of transportation, dress up and sashay into some premises.

Poverty Creator vs Wealth Creator “software code”.

One of the predictors of and contributors towards poverty are cultural values such as,

(1) “Know your place in life”

(2) “Don’t toot your own horn”

(3) “Don’t think too highly of yourself just in case one day you fall from grace”

(4) And, “You are such a selfish and mean person.”

These types of “reality” occur relentlessly in the daily life of the materiality and spiritually poor.

Among loving, compassionate people who promote wealth and prosperity, these words are used instead :

(1) Know your intrinsic worth and birthright even if no one will appreciate you

(2) Acknowledge yourself for even the smallest accomplishments and be appreciative of how you contribute to your own well being through your co operation with your Inner Being.

(3) What you don’t want is part of providing you clarity about what you do want and to give you the power to choose.

(4) You cannot help but serve the highest good of everyone through your willingness to be selfish.

Poverty is not a virtue. We are not talking about lack of material comforts or nett worth such as those lifestyles sought by ascetics, minimalists, primitive tribes or non monetary societies. They may have wealth and prosperity and abundance that can be monetized should they choose to actively participate in the monetized economy. We’re talking about the kind of where people do dream of a more materially comfortable life. A life that feels safe, stable and where they can have reprieve from emotional, mental and physical stressors.

I want you to imagine a poor person who has to take on RM50 credit from a manufacturer to buy 100 bottles of this water. Does it matter whether we choose to serve those who value us versus those who feel that we are just “taking their money by selling to them”? Poor people always feel that they are taking people’s money away by selling things to people and causing others hardship. Rich people feel that they are taking away your hardship by offering you a choice or convenience /solution.

We all want to help the poor and the most realistic way of doing that is to not add to their population. And it’s a simple matter of choosing our beliefs about worth and value and then adjusting price based on market dynamics. Some people hold the belief that the best way to “not be poor” is to “not spend money buying bottled water”. The reason we don’t want to live with the values poor people have isn’t because we are disgusted with them or we think we are better than them. The reason we don’t want to vibrate those values is because the world isn’t helped by us hating the rich and joining the poor out of rebellion towards power and money.

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